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This is the scenario:

You've been seriously dating someone. One night, your boyfriend/girlfriend goes to a party, gets drunk and blacks out. Later, someone tells you that s/he had sex with someone at the party.

You know for sure that your gf/bf really has no memory of this, did not intend for it to happen, and is upset about it.

Do you dump this person? Why and, if not, how do you react?

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there is nothing called " I slept with him accidently" ino its not logic, ino ana ma betfout bi raseh halla2 I might be angry for sometime but not sure if I dump her

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First I'll beat the hell out of this sick bastard who had sex with a blacked-out girl ... eno come on that's sick and perverted to make sex with unconscious girl !!!!! It's like raping her ...

Second I'll dump her not because the act of sex, coz first she went to a party without me, second she drank to an extent she blacked-out ... (if we were seriously dating she would know my opinion about such things, and if she did them behind my back so she is worth dumping)

Thank You ...

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:| yuh what if she asked u if you can go with her 3l party w u were unable?? ):

I didnt understand why you should be upset if she went alone ):

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Well you said first we were dating seriously ... so she should as i should know each other characters ...
If she wanted to go to a certain party and i'm not able to go, then she shouldn't go in the first place ...
coz it's not the place what's important, it's with whom you are which counts ...
if i'm feeling this way, why shouldn't she feel the same way? ... and in case she didn't feel that way ... then she is worth dumping for sure
n'est ce pas ?

Thank You ...

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Non ce n'est pas ca :P
Well let me ask u ): what if it was her best friend''s party and u as usual had to stay in the hospital ): knowing that she didnt meant to drink alot! she was too happy bl jaw there ):

Eno it happens ):

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you are still not getting the point that the place becomes irrelevant when the person you care for is not attending (even if it was your best friend's party) ... if that person wasn't there and wasn't okey for her attendance in the first place ... then she shouldn't go
ba3dein shou ossit ?
I didn't mean to go ... you were busy
I didn't mean to drink a lot ... i was so happy
I didn't mean to have sex ... i was blacked out
for such girl i'll say i didn't mean to date you ... so goodbye lool

Thank You ...

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I got ur point bs i guess u didnt get mine ):
Am not against dumping him....
bs u cant blame her/him if he went alone to a party since u wasnt able to b there!
ok blame her/him for the way he acted... for the drinking thingy bs not for going to a party without u!

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Believe me i'm getting you, that's why i said earlier:
"if that person wasn't there and wasn't okey for her attendance in the first place ... then she shouldn't go" ... so how can't i blame her ?
if she did the opposite then simplement : merci et au revoir

Thank You ...

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what about u asking her to go wiz her fwends :justin: and enjoying her time?:pop:

anyway ): just because they are drunk doesn't give them the right to have sex with someone else even if they can't/don't recall what happened.

It would be over. Drinking has to be the lamest excuse for having sex with someone else. A person who puts themselves in such a position isn't ready for a serious relationship.
cheating is Awful, Awful, Awful :@
and no excuse would work with me!


--> just because someones drunk and kills somone while driving dosent mean they wont go to jail ):

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I wont dump her, :) , no matter what is the reason, eno actually she got drunk and had sex = she lost control i cant accuse her .
but if same thing happened with me(i got drunk) i think i would tell her than dump her

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Where are you living?!!!! what if she wasnt?! where is the problem?!!!!!

She was at the party, she was dancing with someone, she got drunk blaked out, and she end up in his bed!!!!!!

I think the guy will think like that so he will use condoms;)

So you are allowed to have sex and she is not ?!!!!

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I'll make it short and quick...I'll dump him for sure :)

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what if it was any of u who got drunk and had sex!! wouldnt u be sorry and regret it and ready to do anything just not to lose ur gf/bf if ur in love akid, well for me if she was not a virgin its ok only if she really regrets it!
i am all the way with women's right ! why should we have sex all our lives b4 and after marriage and women are not allowed to?:D

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Well, Every1 has his personal opinion, 4 me, i wont marry or love a non virgin girl, thats my way of loving n living
bas, if she Got Accidentally non virgin (rape, accident, medical issues) hayda chi tani dat i would accept n stand beside her


Dancing with Someone? eh Ahlein:p
the scenario means the end of our relationship no matter what excuses;)


Nshallah he will use a condom made of wheel rubber, this is unacceptable



i didn't say am allowed to w she's not allowed, loyalty means alot alot 2 me, if am not loyal 2 her, she has the right to dump me, and no i won't have sex with another girl when am in a relation...plus if i did then she has the right to do also, what applies on me applies on her;)

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poeple no one of u is measuring this on him/herself !!
what if it was u who got drunk? would u tell ur bf/gf sorry i had sex while i was drunk therefor we must break up coz i feel so guilty !

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I will dump her for sure...If it happened once it doesn't meant that it won't happen again...

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donno if i'll dump him never happened to me, in fact it might happen w i didnt know, so the pt is :
wat if a long time passed on his/her act,wat wld u do then?
let's say u're datin a girl/boy from 2 years,2day u knew that from 1 year she/he made sex wiz som1 bcz he/she was drunk wat wld u do? eventhough its been 1 year on the incident and u were stil wiz her/him as nthg happened bcz aslan ma kent 3arif, nw wat u'll do? dump her? stay wiz her? and let's say that he/she didnt lie on u, bas its all abt she/he was drunk w they cldnt even remember wat happened that night...
well i wont dump him if he admited wiz his mistake, i give another chance no1 is perfect, bas i think that after that our relation wont b as it was, i fl eno it becomes unstable, w fi mashekil w doubts ktir, w if he really loves me b7es eno ra7 ydal 7esis bel zaneb w shou ma 3emil 7a ydal m2asar
(i do believe in love w i do believe that some couples even after being married for more thn 10 years bisir fi ghalat bhal ne7ye bas u can always give a chance, so i might be silly bas its just the way i think)
but im quiet sure i wont 4give myself if im the one who betrayed him

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Words of Gold

"No one Is perfect"
thank you dima :)

So Guys???

Anyone??

People can be subject to temptations of any kind
Bear in mind that a human being is weak regarding his instincts
He could get 'drifted' at any second

As sheriff said no one is perfect

However this doesn't mean it is allowed to happen another time
Remember the famous quote : fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me

Forgive and forget, give another chance
if it is happening again then to hell with it.

the girl version of abousoun :huh: very wisely said :huh:

Trust me sometimes it's never easy to forgive neither to forget hek chi :)

True, it's never easy, never.. but it's worth trying no?

I would surely dump her:
A girl of her age should seriously be in control of her drinking matters, and drunken randomly sex having girls are not the ones i forgive in any way!

superman i thnk ur right :P:P
asslan u only forgive drunkin kissing ones :P:P hahahhaha (inside joke)