Should the girl say "I love You" first?
 

Hello everyone,

As we all know or the 3ade was always for a guy to tell a girl that he loves her and ask her out! Do u think would it be fine if a girl told a guy she loves him first?

-If ur a guy and a girl who's u know is ur friend came up to u and said she loves u. What would u think? and how would u react?

-If ur a girl and u fall in love would u ever tell the guy ur in love with that u love him first? or u just forget about it (scared he'll think ur cheap or something) and wait for him to say it first?

What do u do?

are you talking about asking the guy out first or are you talking about that, you're already in a relationship(kinda) and wondering who can say it first?

cause this sentence threw me off
edit: about this

we talked about it in a different thread, about friends falling for each other
and I said that you can't tell a friend "I love you but if you don't feel the same way we can still be friends"(regardless of whether you're a girl or a guy)
I love you is a big expression, it's like giving your heart to that person, and it's a big responsibility to the person that hears it, it's the kind of expressions that I would only say 2 month after I marry the girl I love lool

when it is a friend especialy, use other ways to try and go forward from your relationship, go out alone maybe or be nice to him or something, and see how he reacts and try to see what your chances are before dropping the "I love you" on him

answering directly the question addressed to the guys, well, if a girl comes a tells me that she loves me, it will be one of two cases:
1- if i don't love her, that's gonna be embarassing... and she will feel so so down after i give a negative answer.
2- if i do, then this step would make things 10 times easier for me.

giggity

Personally, it doesn't matter who says I LOVE YOU first as long as it is TRUTHFUL.

When it comes to sharing the feeling, i think the one who has to say it first must be sure if there's some sparkles in the air when both are with each other n by the way they look at each one another. Then, you do the step.
Honestly, I don't think of an appropriate way to reject someone, so it goes almost like this: "I am flattered a lot, but i am already with someone (even if I was not). OR if she knew that i was not with someone, I would simply say: "i'm really flattered but i don't think we can be together, its not you, its just ME.... lool"

The following goes to the ladies n the guyz: When u share ur honest feelings and get rejected, be absolutely sure that you have a big heart and guts to share such emotion and he/she does not carry it for you, then its their loss not yours.

peace

but why immediatly go with "I love you" ?
if I really like a girl first of all, I would try asking her out, first date, second date etc... if she doesn't like you, you'll know through her going out with you or not, and how she behaves

and it is easier to be rejected when asking someone out then to be rejected after the I love you :p

the word is calculated risks

Dear Mr. owl,

When you say i love you to someone, it doesn't mean u just met that person. it means u know her from a long time, or recently met her and did some activities or just chatted over the phone or over the net or whatever. it always starts with a glimpse of feeling but with time it would lead to somewhere which is LOVE.

The word I love you these days is being used like : " 'ey yaw! gotta' cigarette homey?? " Sarit routine 3and el 3alam when they say it just for the sake of talking, or eno "khalas shut up, i love you"...

In order to reach those 3 words, you must at least get the feeling of not going to sleep just because reality is much better than dreams. but that happens with TIME. Moreover, I think what Choukou meant is : who has to ask the other one out, or talks about the feeling "likeness or love". Who chooses the first step.

I know what it meant
we're talking about friends here
even if it is a girl friend you knew for ages, you met at work or school usualy, it is not the same as going on an official date, one table, head to head, this is what should be tried :P

you know, dressing up for the occasion, picking her up and stuff
it's not the same as meeting in the university cafeteria or the phone

how could u meet someone on the phone? :Tawa: btetlob ra2em w 7asab sawta bet2ela " hey u know 3ajabneh sawtik, mind if I buy u dinner?" :hizb:

100% agree w its "embarrassing" :p