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sarah32 08-03-2007 07:53 PM

What would u do if...?
 
what would u do if one of ur bestest friends is getting drunk every night and u have this feeling that he's on drugs... and u cant talk to one of the guys he hangs out with coz they're the ones who drink with him every night ... and you cant stand seeing him drunk and not being able to do anything ... and en plus some1 told u that he looks like some1 on drugs ...

Justin 08-03-2007 08:35 PM

Re: What would u do if...?
 
Dear SuperWoman,

Go Get a Bottle & Drink:p... kiddin':D

Basically, all what u can do is 2 tell ur friend, calmly n seriously that u still care about him n wishes him the best of the best... At the same time, let him know that u care toooooo much about him 2 continue 2 witness what he is doin' 2 himself n his life... Let him know u will b there 4 him if he decides 2 stop using ALL drugs. 'til that time, u dun wish 2 have personal contact or visits...:)

Be prepared 4 anger, possibly even bad words:S... but stay calmed & serious... remember this is NOT ur friend speakin'... It is his addictionz... Whatever u do, dun give him some money... I think he's lucky to have someone like u... All what u can do is 2 pray for him...

peace

sarah32 08-03-2007 08:49 PM

Re: What would u do if...?
 
i talked 2 him many times .. he knows how much i care abt him .. and i've been in the situation ma tarakleh wala kelmeh and i ba3adet for a while 3ano and he came back saying he's sorry w hek .. but the thing is that i ct stand cying him hek without doing anything ... all his life is turning abt alcohol and sex and *****es ... and gher kel shi m worried abt him getting sick bcz of it .. u know aids n stuff ...:( today was the first time I SEE HIM drunk ... and it hurts ... it hurts so bad ...

Mandy 08-03-2007 08:51 PM

Re: What would u do if...?
 
i don't think that you, as a friend or even best friend, can do anything. i dunno i guess in this case only the parents are able to solve this problem la anno l 7ake ma bifid. ya3ne you can't say ok i'll talk to him w he'll understand ... especially if he reached drugs

be a "fasside" for once and tell his parents indirectement(bala ma ya3rif ur frnd) cz this is not a joke, he needs treatment .

abousoun 08-03-2007 08:52 PM

Re: What would u do if...?
 
did you talk to any of his parents or siblings ? :S

Thank You ...

sarah32 08-03-2007 08:54 PM

Re: What would u do if...?
 
yeah mandy in fact thats what i was going to do but the thing is eno his parents knows how much he drinks ... and they just cant lock him home ... he had another home at broumana .. and thats where he hangs out with his "friends" ... and as i said b4 his friends r adrab meno ... and i duno if i should talk to his parents w ana i dt have hal2ad contact ma3on .. eno it'll be "like min enteh la t2oulileh eno ebneh on drugs" ...

Jess 08-03-2007 08:57 PM

Re: What would u do if...?
 
well sarah talk wiz his parents w am sure that they need some help men a close frnd like u!
they cant talk wiz him,but you can....he cant tell everything to his parents but he can tell you!

So i think eno t3ewane wiz his parents is da best solution ever :(

Justin 08-03-2007 09:00 PM

Re: What would u do if...?
 
I say eno tetshake 3ala "his friendz" which I do not call them friendz at all..

Ask 4 help... If u think he's just 2 far gone, u dun have 2 b the 1 to turn him around. u shouldn't have 2... Get help, that's all I can say... Counselors know SOOOO much. Talk 2 one n get 2 know if u can trust 'em before u open up...
Right now, I think the best thing u can do is just b a positive influence in his life. Be the friend he can talk to n confide in... Dun let urself get angry or act rush... Just lsn to him n b there 4 him when he falls... Let him know that u dun like what he's doin'... Dun b mad @ him 4 breaking ur promise... he's probably goin' through a lot right now... I think he's tryin' 2 escape emotional pain or he is soo much under pressure... i donno hun...

Mandy 08-03-2007 09:04 PM

Re: What would u do if...?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by sarah32 (Post 90050)
yeah mandy in fact thats what i was going to do but the thing is eno his parents knows how much he drinks ... and they just cant lock him home ... he had another home at broumana .. and thats where he hangs out with his "friends" ... and as i said b4 his friends r adrab meno ... and i duno if i should talk to his parents w ana i dt have hal2ad contact ma3on .. eno it'll be "like min enteh la t2oulileh eno ebneh on drugs" ...

i'm sure sarah enno iza re7te w khabbartyoun they won't tell u "like min enteh la t2oulileh eno ebneh on drugs" . i think if they care 1% la masla7it their son they will cooperate with u and help u and give u all their support cz bl niheye they'll be helping their son

abousoun 08-03-2007 09:05 PM

Re: What would u do if...?
 
whatever your relation was with his parents, they should know ... minnik aw min ghayrik mish fer2a ...

second, you should talk with him and try to see what's wrong ... eno obviously he has some sort of problems which lead to this drinking and drugs issue ...
so once you can get to know what's wrong, you can help him with that ...

try to invite him to somewhere far from those friends, and near to some friends both you know and do some sort of "intervention"

if all didn't work, report on him and his friends if you're sure they are taking drugs

Thank You ...


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