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B coder · 04-01-2007

Everyone either knew a bully or had an enemy when they were growing up. Some can tell you today that in the end, they became friends. Others can only say that the bully probably never changed. Here are some tips for becoming friends with an enemy.

Steps

Determine why that person was your enemy. Did you do something bad to him/her or a close friend of that person? In that case, try to make amends, and explain yourself.
Approach this person and tell them that you want to resolve the issues that you two have together.
Let this person know that you could probably be really good friends, and the only thing stopping you from having a friendship is your differences.
Tell this person, that it isn't worth it. You could be having fun together, instead of hating and fighting each other.
Invite your enemy to your home to play video games, go shoot pool, go to an arcade, a skate park. Anything that tells your enemy that you are not a threat.
Offer to hang out with your enemy sometime, give him or her your phone number, and tell them that if they ever need something, or someone to talk to, that they can call you. By doing this, you're letting them know that you no longer want to fight. Do not offer your phone number if you feel they may misuse it.

Tips

If you don't feel comfortable by going anywhere with your enemy alone, let them know that a few of your friends will be there also.
Talk to your enemy about things that he or she likes, you never know, you may have something in common, and that could start a friendship.
Prove yourself. Often, your enemy just doesn't respect you. Show you are worth it through your acheivements (academic, athletic, whatever).

Warnings

Not everyone will take this and go with it. Some people are just difficult, and you may not be able to get through to them. You might have to just let them go their separate ways.
If this person is the dangerous type (violent, or could possibly have weapons) it's best to leave it, and not approach him or her. (Tell someone as in the tip below)
If you feel that this person is a threat to you, or someone else, tell someone, anyone, immediately. ( A parent, school counselor, teacher, principal, police officer etc.)

04-01-2007	#1
B coder Registered Member Last Online: 04-26-2007 Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 216 Thanks: 0 Thanked 3 Times in 2 Posts Groans: 0 Groaned at 0 Times in 0 Posts	How to Become Friends With an Enemy Everyone either knew a bully or had an enemy when they were growing up. Some can tell you today that in the end, they became friends. Others can only say that the bully probably never changed. Here are some tips for becoming friends with an enemy. Steps Determine why that person was your enemy. Did you do something bad to him/her or a close friend of that person? In that case, try to make amends, and explain yourself. Approach this person and tell them that you want to resolve the issues that you two have together. Let this person know that you could probably be really good friends, and the only thing stopping you from having a friendship is your differences. Tell this person, that it isn't worth it. You could be having fun together, instead of hating and fighting each other. Invite your enemy to your home to play video games, go shoot pool, go to an arcade, a skate park. Anything that tells your enemy that you are not a threat. Offer to hang out with your enemy sometime, give him or her your phone number, and tell them that if they ever need something, or someone to talk to, that they can call you. By doing this, you're letting them know that you no longer want to fight. Do not offer your phone number if you feel they may misuse it. Tips If you don't feel comfortable by going anywhere with your enemy alone, let them know that a few of your friends will be there also. Talk to your enemy about things that he or she likes, you never know, you may have something in common, and that could start a friendship. Prove yourself. Often, your enemy just doesn't respect you. Show you are worth it through your acheivements (academic, athletic, whatever). Warnings Not everyone will take this and go with it. Some people are just difficult, and you may not be able to get through to them. You might have to just let them go their separate ways. If this person is the dangerous type (violent, or could possibly have weapons) it's best to leave it, and not approach him or her. (Tell someone as in the tip below) If you feel that this person is a threat to you, or someone else, tell someone, anyone, immediately. ( A parent, school counselor, teacher, principal, police officer etc.)