Jealousy

[abousoun]

Jealousy is a feeling that's present inside each of us, just like love, hate, anger, etc ....

So what's your definition for Jealsouy?
Do you consider Jealousy as an act of love, untrust, possession, selfishness ...?

Does Jealousy ruin relationships ?
When Jealousy becomes a disease ?

Share us what you think

Thank You ...

[Justin]

In my opinion jealousy is like a wild fire outta control, sometimes u become its slave n u're unable 2 realize what's wrong n what's right...
there's 2 things that define jealousy, 1 is negative n another one is positive...

1- Negative: e.g. of a daily life jealousy: watchin' some1 talkin' 2 girls/boys n stealin' ur chance 2 win their heart or somethin' like that... that kind of jealousy is related to personality i guess... if u do not believe in urself, u start jealous from others how could they get what they want (i'm not talkin' 'bout money) when u cannot cuz u just didn't try

2- Poisitive: e.g. of another daily life jealousy: when u c some1 who has this kinda knowledge n succes.. which that really let u think of what do u really want to be n what r u expecting from ur life... when u c some1 better than u.. hard worker, smart, money, fame and personality... it gives u a huge challenge 2 urself... u start sayin' I wanna be better than him/her or just like him/her.. shu na2so el wa7ad la 7ata ma yenja7 bi hal eshya...?... so u start believing in ya self that u can do better n u start the hard work.. finally.. this kind of jealousy is positive cuz it makes u think that u wanna get better n work hard

[Ghnadine]

Everyone tells me that I have a problem in not being Jealouse easily in other words it takes alot to get me jelouse.That is also what my husband tells me. Maybe because I'm the type if discovers that a person is cheating on me I just walk away without a flinch and leave maybe its wrong but this is me has been for all my life.

I thought this is helpful types of Jealousy
Types of Jealousy

Various attempts have been made to distinguish between different types of jealousy. One important distinction is between normal and abnormal jealousy (Pines 1992). Normal jealousy has its basis in a real threat to a person's relationship with another. Most "normal" people experience intense jealousy when a valued relationship is threatened. On the other hand, jealousy is abnormal in two circumstances. First, jealousy is abnormal when it is not related to a real threat to a valued relationship, but to some inner trigger of the jealous individual. Such jealousy is also called delusional jealousy. Second, jealousy is abnormal when the jealous response is dramatically exaggerated or violent.
A similar distinction is made by Gerrod Parrott (1991), who believes the most important distinction concerns the nature of the threat to the relationship. Jealousy may occur when the threat is only suspected and its nature is unclear. On the other hand, it may occur when the threat is unambiguously real and its effects are known. When the threat is unclear or only suspected, the result is suspicious jealousy, and the predominant reactions concern fears and uncertainties. When the threat to the relationship is unambiguous and damaging, the result is a fait accompli: jealousy and the reactions are an accomplished fact.
Finally, Gregory White and Paul Mullen (1989) differentiate three major classes of jealousy. Symptomatic jealousy is a consequence of a major mental illness such as paranoid disorder, schizophrenia, substance abuse, or organic brain disorders. Because of personality disorder or strong sensitizing experiences, some people are especially sensitive to self-esteem or relationship threat and experience pathological jealousy. Normal jealousy, on the other hand, occurs in people who are neither sensitized nor suffering from a major mental illness. These three classes of jealousy differ according to the relative influences of biology, personality, and relationship on the development of jealousy; in the jealous person's capacity for reality testing; and in suggested treatment approaches.

[mickey]

Well in each one of us there's Jealousy.
But the problem is wethere it is active in us not.

Jealousy has two sides. A positive one and a negative one.
The negative one is when ur jealous from some1 close and u try to hurt him or do anythin to be better than him but not in a good way.
There's a great example which is a movie (The Count Of Monte Cristo)
Fernand(Son of a Count) tell his friend Dantes:
Ur the son of a clerck and im not supposed to want to be u.

Sometimes we're not jealous from some1 who's greater than us or who has money more than us or stuff.. Sometimes we are jealous coz some1 is happy in his life.


The positive one is when u challenge urself to be like others.It's like a competition between u and some1 else and u want to win.

Hope no1 will face the negative side of it coz it really ruins relationships and specially close ones.



Thanks

[Tawa]

In My Opinion, Jealousy Is Something Normal, But It Has Different Levels
And Some People Show Their Jealousy, Others Hide It

But I Think That Everyone Should Have A Minimum Level Of Jealousy, And It's Not Something Bad Ye3neh , It Becomes Bad When We Show This Jealousy To Others When We Overreact Sometimes And Other Stuff

[abousoun]

Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.... Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love the greater the jealousy.
Robert Heinlein

Thank You ...

[SysTaMatIcS]

it destroyed my relationship with her till now
cuz am not confident in myself and i felt like she could leave me anytime for anyone , so my fear of that turned itself into reality....

[J()e]

jelousy is a normal feeling when some1 is better of us in differents domaine ... love ... jobs..schooll etc...
and for some reasons i think that in one hand yes it does destroy some relation ships becz the person jelous becomz"opsede"and doesn't feel confident anymore and in the other hand a man who is never jelous is not a human beeing he is like a robot !!

[Jess]

غريزة فطرية خلقها الله داخل كل شخص منا مثلها مثل أي صفة توجد داخلنا ولكن هناك من تكون هذه الغريزة لديه معقولة وهناك من تتعدى اللا معقول , ربما توصف الغيرة بأنها شعور مؤلم عند شخص يرغب في امتلاك حبيب واحتكار مشاعره وقد تفتك الغيرة بالحبيبين .. وتنهي ما كان بينهما ..

الغيرة شعور مثله مثل كثير من المشاعر والأحاسيس .. ولكنه شعور مؤلم إذا تعدى حده وزاد عنه .. كثيراً ما نرى المشاكل تنشأ بين الزوجين وبين المحبين بسبب الغيرة وقد تطغي هذه الغيرة أحيانا وتصل إلى حد الشك والظن والحرمان .. وربما ينتهي الحب بين الآخرين بسبب هذه الغيرة إذ أنها قد تولد انعدام الثقة بينهم..

Do you guys agree with me on theese points?

[pink]

i c its smthng natural...w especially btwn a couple..its a proof of love true love...nd extreeeeeeeme jealousy isnt negative in my pt of view...its just the feelin of ownin the 1 u luv...which is a result of a passionate love nt a result of lack of self confident as sm ppl analyze..bas the thng in here is that 1 shud keep a part of his thnkin brain wen hez jealous nt 2 let his state of bein jealous ruin up wuts the basics of wut he was tryin 2 protect in the 1st place by his jealousy!