Pre-"After-Marriage" Rules

[Tawa]

Ok, While Searching For A Husband Or A Wife, People Do Make A Secret Rule List That They Passively Want Their Love-Mate To Accept...

For Example, A Guy Might Say: "My Wife Should Treat My Parents Like They Are Hers..."; A Girl Might Say: "My Husband Should Accept The Fact That I'm Not Virgin..."; And Many Many Other Rules...

So, If You Have To Make A List Of Rules For Your Partner, What Would It Be?

[Gilgamesh]

Nice thread Tawa Junior...

A few rules ....not hard if u think of it...pretty common sense :

1 - Any kid that happens "by mistake" and is not carefully planned for and agreed on by both of us should be aborted quietly

2 - In case she cheats* on me, she leaves with a quiet divorce after giving up all her financial rights and her right to see the children before they are 18. A written premarital agreement should be included to insure that this rule will be legally enforced. (Same goes if I cheat)

3 - She is to take full responsibility of any religious teachings she would like to give the children and not expect any support or help or approval from me. If she refrains from doing so, the children will be without a religion

4 - Honesty in general is vital to the relationship. I expect her to be honest at all times even if she ends up upsetting others. I don't want to marry a politician

5 - I expect some care for the physical appearance and some cleanliness whether on her children,herself, or her house.

6 - I am not to take full responsibility of the children. She is to share the burden equally in all matters ( except financially, and if she wants to help,I don't mind )


*Cheating is defined as not only sexual intercourse but any form of physical intimacy.

[FriendOfZeus]

She should accept the way i am, i have a few quirks that might make life with me not so pleasing, but i am against changing my personnality for someone. Either they accept my good and bad sides and try to adapt or leave.

She shouldnt, in any shape way or form NAG, i hate people who nag, usually i dont like using this expression "hate", but in the "nagging" issue i am forced to. I will not tolerate, cant tolerate a partner who nags all the time.

Even if she doesnt like how my parents are, and doesnt like them in general, she should always be respectfull towards them.

[Sheriff Ice]

personly i do have this list :

1- good looking
2- take care of her self and outfit
3- being honest
4- accept me as i am financially
5- equality in all things
6- jalousy should be forgot
7- if she cheated me i have the right to cheat her, if i cheated her she have the right to cheat me and to take her divorce
8- kids thing: i want kids as much as she wants, but getting kids without the ability to raise them in a proper way and a proper education isnt a choice.
9- the 1st 3 years of the mariage will be dedicated to me and her to go and travel and live couple of years togher

[Tawa]

Originally Posted by FriendOfZeus

She should accept the way i am, i have a few quirks that might make life with me not so pleasing, but i am against changing my personnality for someone. Either they accept my good and bad sides and try to adapt or leave.

This Is A Very Good Point Man...

Well, I Think That People Passively Start To Figure Out The Rules That Their Partners Make When They Start Dating And Seeing Each Other...
And This Point That FriendOfZeus Talked About If A Very Good Example... And I Am 100000% With It.
For Example, If A Girl Meets A Guy And He's So Handsom That She Really Likes Him, But The Proplem Is That She Doesn't Like His Tast In Some Stuff.. She Tries To Change Him Into The Perfect Guy In Her Eyes...
I Am Really Against It, And I Find Guyz Who Change Themselves Just Because Of A Girl, Very Stupid I'm Sorry Poeple But That's What I Think About You

Anywayz, My List Is:
1- Accept Me As I Am - Althought I Think That This Is Not For The After-Marriage It Should Be Accepted Before.
2- Take Full Responsibility Of Teaching Religion Stuff To The Children, And Accept That Fact That I Don't Want To Baptise My Children Before They Reach An Age Where They Can Choose Their Religions Very Freely...
3- She Should Treat Her Parents As If They Were Hers...


Those Are The Main Three Points That I Have, And I Don't Force Her To Do Anything She Doesn't Want Everybody's Free To Accept These Terms And Everyone's Free To Go

[Jess]

So guys what are your rules??????

[TAREK®]

1- Accepte me as I am

2- She wont fight with anybody in my familly

3- She will always be faithfull

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