Colorful Fatherhood

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The border crossings that fathers have made over the past decades have had a profound positive constructive effect on the lives of their children. This change has lead to the refinement of the childrens lives through the increase of the fathers knowledge and culture. The disclosure of their emotions and the decapitation of those taboo subjects of father lineancy and emotional understanding. And the effort that they have opted for; to be an intrusive force in the lives of their children when need be.


To date, fathers behavior went through a metamorphosis of what it was in the past. For they were supposed to be rugged men, whom refrain on disclosing their emotions, on never showing weakness and to be rigid and strickt with their children. For emotional understanding was viewed as a sign of "pampering" the child and as being wrong. Yet now days, thse stern values are dissipating in front of the insurgence of more lineant and caring values. Fathers nowadays have been transformed; this has lead to them being more open with their emotions, to treating their children with more empathy and understanding. This openess has lead to the tightning of the "father and daughter/son bond".


Father have chosen to be a constructive force opting for more intervention on their part when their children -young or old- winde up in trouble. They are breacking the conventions of letting the children go live their own lives and become independant, to being there when they trully need them. In summary, more and moere father are becoming a solid base for the child to fall upon when problems strike and they get swept. Also, midnful of not taking it too far and hinder the childs developpement into adulthood, they are to strike the perfect balance of intervention adn respect of space.


Culture can range from all sorts of topics, but whats really important is that the child, when times comes and he must set out on his own, should acquire valuable information about how life functions and how society acts as a whole from her/his father. In summary, fathers should fill the void that schools are failing to fill. Critical information like; important values, ethics and what to do when facing hardships, even the father's cultural wealth when shared with the child can instill the same hunger for knowledge in him. Molding their children into what they think is a better human being is one of the father's missions, and culture, if residing in one such parent can be a driving force behind a succesful upbringing.


This rythm of change must be maintained, for the sake of the children is in play here. This welcomed radiating shift has played a constructive role in the childrens lives. We must keep this change coming, for the failure to do so would mean bending and capitulating in front of old destructive values and customs.


By Mohamad Sleiman Haidar