cohabitation

[keke]

i d like to know ur opinion on cohabitation
3ande yeh oral presentation on friday w i did some research w 3melet survey bass i thought i d c what u guys think of it.
advantages disadvantages .....

[halhoula]

In my personal opinion cohabitation can be an alternative to marriage, but just like many other subjects it is refused in Lebanon and the Arab world and it is as well a taboo.

The advantages of cohabitation or concubinage are many, one of which is getting to know your partner all the way better, including knowing him/her on the sexual level and on the level of behavior.... because believe it or not even after years of normal romantic relationship many new things are revealed once two people share the same roof.

The disadvantage can be many as well: in case a baby was conceived it will be considered as a bastard so (طفل غير شرعي أو لقيط) which in countries such as Lebanon would find it hard to win the acceptance of the society.

Personally I'm not against cohabitation as a principle, it has advantages and disadvantages just like any other thing in life, but since it is refused by my society and it would cost me a lot, I'd rather not try it so I can preserve my peace of mind .

Hope that this will help you in your presentation.

Good luck

[Sheriff Ice]

i have no pb but would she accept?!
or would the society accept?
these are the questions

[mr_j]

I don't give a cent what society thinks and if society accepts or not. the worst thing you can do in life is try to please everyone at the expense of what you want. your real friends and the people who know you and know how much of agood person you are will not judge you. and to hell with the rest :P

personnaly the advantages are many, and I do not see disadvantages. about what hala said about having sex or conceiving a baby, that could happen even if she is living in her own home, and with a strict family, after all, it only takes moments

to me personnaly, I am against sex before marriage.(don't get me wrong, I would marry a non virgin and I don't judge nor care about what others do) but sex only makes things more complicated, and after you've seen everything that person has to offer and you came to know him/her that well, you've killed the spark and the mystery and you set a time bomb on the relationship that will inevitably go off, it only gets boring from there.

to me coliving's advantages are: you can split the rent :P you can rent a big 500 $ aparetment and each pay 250(which is easy even for the wages we have in lebnon) you're free from your parents(I want to move out ) and their authority, you can spend cosy nights just watching TV together which I find really cute and fun(please no twilight though) you can experience what married life is like, you're independant and livign with someone who understands you and has the same problems as you(unlike living with your family, who instead of helping, often add to your problems)

as long as you don't sleep together and you pay the rent on time and you're not a jealous person, things will not get very complicated.

[Adam]

Why not live together while engaged and then decide if you want to get married or not?

Originally Posted by mr_j

after all, it only takes moments

Careful man, you say things like that on the internet and your stuck with a bad reputation for life

[mr_j]

Careful man, you say things like that on the internet and your stuck with a bad reputation for life

lol awlak?
moment is a subjective relative term
but anyway you got my point, I have heard of many girls gettign pregnant and they had crazy fathers who either beat the guy up, shot him or etc...
just saying betsir bi a7san 3iyal

[keke]

yeh exactly the whole society thingy is really crapy i guess no matter how much we deny it bel ekhir we do care about what our neighbors and relatives say. mr_j kellna men 2oul heik "i do wtv pleases me" bass i guess we all adopt to some sort of norm bel ekhir. w bekhsous l it only takes moments dud im sorry hahhaha kidin
w halhoula i kinda disagree coz i dnt think i can c somethng that u can get out of just like as, bekel souhoule as an alternative to marriage coz a huge part of marriage is the commitement w in that case commitement is almost nonexisting but i c it as a transactional phase just like adam said.

[mr_j]

w bekhsous l it only takes moments dud im sorry hahhaha kidin

I do not suspect this is gonna be forgotten anytiem soon in this forum :P
I may have to change my name and ip address