Sociable

[Justin]

I will make it short & sweet:

If you had the chance to get marry the one you love & your family didn't agree on it.. what would u do? & how would you react? & why? If u chose to leave with her/him as "5atifé", how this will affect in ur future relationship with ur whole family?

PS: Im talking about future: that means you have the ability to get marry but ur family or her/his family don't agree on that person, how would ur decision be based on?

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[No One]

well i've my own pt of view abt this subj, la plupart d'entre vs wont agree wiz me...
I do believe eno awal 18 years nfarado 3layna, ye3ne God farad 3laya awal part from our life:
1- farad 3laye l 7ayet
2- farad 3laye my parents & my family
3- farad 3laye my religion & my name
4- farad 3laye 2 live in a specific society
5- my parents chose for me my school
After 18 i do believe that God gave us the whole freedom 2 choose our major, our university, our friuends, our job, and wiz who are we gonna continue our life
I'm mature enough 2 know the one i shld get marry wiz, i do respect my parents and their pts of view i can be convinced and i cannot be it depends...
if they didnt accept the one i want to get marry wiz i wld ask them abt the reason, at the end im gonna marry him and not my parents :s
I think our parents lezim ywa3ouna 3a eshya mech cheyfina, sometimes na7nba menkoun sheyfin l ghalat w hekyin bel subject wiz our partner so hone menkoun metef2in w ma 7ada khaso
-->No1 is perfect, sometimes l parents byou2afo biwej ta3astak w sometimes bi wej sa3edtak
I prefer eno fout bel 7et mene la wa7de men eno ahle ykouno sabab w eza njabaret rou7 khatife i dont have any pb
Merci

[Josee]

As usual Justin,very nice thread (Y)

Well,when it's about marriage,I will fall in love with someone who is from the same social-educationnal-moral level as me (c)Sarah,thanks for telling me this. When I fall in love with that person,who has the same level as mine,or higher (bas mech higher bi ktir) I'm sure my parent's won't disagree on the idea of getting married to that person...
But,if it happened,and I fell in love with the wrong person,means the person who is less educated than me,doesn't know how to deal with social activities,in a word "NUL",I'm sure that my parent's will refuse that I get married to this person,they was tired all they life to get me a good education and to teach me how to act in social occasions,mech ta eje jebloun 3aris who is from a level a2al mene bi ktir...
Iza bede eje fakir bi albe,I won't care about my parent's reaction and "brou7 khatife" w mech fer2a ma3e l dene,this will affect in a negative way my relationship with my parents..awal chi am sure eno they won't talk to me again..Bkoun hek I lost all my family but won the one I love...
But,iza bede fakir bi my mind,akid I will choose the people li te3bo 3laye w raboune to be someone successful in the futur,and I can forget the one I love and get a better husband edir houwe y3ayechne mech ana 3ayecho...Hek bkoun I won my family and all the people who care about me w about maslehte...

Something to add,hala2 fe2et 3lei:
If I fell in love with a guy from another religion bas he's simply great,I'm sure my parents will disagree on our marriage,se3eta brouh khatife,cz there is nothing wrong in the guy and my parents bi kouno 3am you2afo bi wej my happiness..

[KeXasthur]

Well, in such cases, there always should be "reasons" for parents to oppose a marriage. If I don't find their opposition reasonable , I would ignore it.
Reasons can differ from religion to Money to political affiliation to education to nationality ..etc ( esp in Lebanon)
If I personally do not agree with their reasons , I would simply do what I want to do.
Why should someone not marry a girl/boy just because the parents rejected.
What good reasons do they have ?
The most understandable reject would be to a girl/boy that they know would be an disloyal wife/husband to their son/daughter. Because in such cases, parents would be warning and advising and not interfering with their daughter/son 's beliefs and meddling in his/her business and what he/she thinks is right to do.
However, At a certain age, every person is independent and free. His/Her beliefs no matter how similar to his/her parents are not connected anymore.

If After the marriage is done, problems remain between the parents and their daughter/son, I think that it's the parent's turn to move forward and speak to their daughter/son about the fact that it's his/her decision and they should leave the decision to them as they are old enough to independently make choices in their life and so on.

[wissam1991]

If my family doesn't agree, I don't care, I marry her w mech "5atifé", ba3mil 3eres tawil 3arid law ahle ma eblo, because this is my life not their's and it is my decision.. because when i marry they are not going to live forever, and when they it's only me and her, ya3ne it's a decision i make because it's me who's going to live forever with her, not them. amma eza it's her family who didn't accept i have to respect her parents ella eza keno e5din fekra 3atleh 3anne i will try to prove that i am good and that i have the qualities they are asking for.. amma eza rassoun tanke w ma 2tana3o w hiyye bet7ebne be5eda 5atife, awfar!

[Sheriff Ice]

im wiz dima reply 100%,
well as a guy
1st i dunt care abt my parents opinion abt such a subject
2nd she will not care abt her parents opinion abt this subject
3rd me and she we know our best
4th for sure if we get maried akid we are going khatife(not because of parents problems, but cuz its better) w akid civil mariage

[Sniper]

Well, its up to me to decide to whom i want to get married to or not...I mean were in the 21st century now, were not living in the stone age, i would be an adult by then and i can decide for myself...My reaction would be to have the wedding and not invite them...Simply...Unless they convince me on why i shouldnt marry the one i love, ill have the wedding without them...Less people, less money spent...I wouldnt leave with her in secrecy because i have nothing to hide...Its my decision not theirs, im a free man...ANd i expect her to do the same if she truly loves me...The decision we took by doing such an act would be based on true love and our want to live together our whole lives...Its simple

[J()e]

chou khasson ahle?? i know baddon masla7te but i wont get married before 27 years..i'll be mature enough to know wht's the decision i am taking! and ma 7a e5ida 5atife fi 3eres tawil 3arid ra7 ba3melo

[Medusa]

eltouwon kellon ma 5allaytoule chi
bass bel mou5tasar l moufid : It's my life , and i'm responsable about all what i do and if i love my future husband and i'm ready to sacrifice everything 4 our love !! anno i would be mature enough to know what i do ma ra7 etjawaz w 3omre 15 minimum 24/25 w a7sanlon ywef2o la ykoun bi ridahon !!

[pink]

well...its easy 2 talk..but i hate ths subject becoz its nt a freewill!! ya3ne,,as 4 me, men l awwal, i wont get through anythng wth some1 that i know and pretty sure that my parents wont allow it..w bkoon 3arfe enno ma3on 7a22 not 2 do...
plus wen im wth some1 id let my family or at least my mother know abt it inorder not 2 go further all alone w eje pooooooooooov bel ossa 3layun w am pretty mature 2 know wut i want and need and should have 4 myself..w my parents wont ever refuse me smthng thats 4 my own sake...w i never imagine doin smthng agnst ther will.. enno eje kermel 2 marry sm1 et2atal ma3 ahlete w ma3ash e7keyun!!..later ba3d kam sene, tht person li i married...wud b like: ma ente 3melte hek b ahlek li rabuke!!! it happened wth like 4 grls tht i know w its love!!!!