Need an opinion

[Novak]

Hello everyone, I am new to your forum as user but I am a daily visitor, I like your discussion threads even though I dont share with you the same political view in a way, actually I don't even care if all our politicians vanish like this. Taking into consideration that this will not be a problem, that you are too civil to accept others opinion, I joined your forum hoping to make good friends

Now I came to the issue I want opinion in it.

See, I am Christian and I talk to a girl, I like her but I am sure that it is only a matter of time till I fall in love with her, actually she was the one who told her true feelings before I do, so it isn't a love from one part. Now her mother is putting pleasure on her, she dont want her to fall in love with me, she said that "I am different", She tell her daughter whenever she tries to talk about me "Ense". She has respect toward me but she is refusing to give me a chance, not a single one to make her accept me for who I am and not for what I am. I got extreemly mad that people think this way, they take religion as a barrier to limit our wishes and will. The other day the girl tried to hurt herself on purpose because of this , she had an accident when coming back to home and she injured her arm when a car hit her on the road, without the care of GOD, some bad could happened to her. She even told me that she will leave university so she dont cause pain for me but I refused.
I just told her that I am taking the chance to the end but I dont know how it will end...
I miss the exact questions, so please feel free to comment.

[abousoun]

Well there is several options :
- Te5ida 5atifeh if you are able to provide a home independently (and both of you accept that)
- Enssa your current relationship and focus on your studies
- Changing religion (although i don't see a point in doing that)
- Wait her mother's death

Thank You ...

[Miss O.]

First of all welcome to the forum, and second of all i think many others will agree with this here at VC your not judged my your political affliation so ya hala.

As to the the opinion you need:

There's this thing called using your mind vs. your heart and your issue basically revolves around that. You are the one who has to choose whether youre going to go with your gut heart feeling or your mind.

I don't know how old you are to know how serious this relationship might be. In my opinion if you know for a fact that this relationship isnt going to last and its just a fling dont let either of you get hurt.

The importance of religion varies in each and everyones lives. To you it may not be the end of the world but for a person like this girls mom it could be everything. If you do decide you want to go ahead with this relationship before proving to her you respect her religion your going to have to prove to her mother. Its obviously something normal for parents to worry. But i dont know if youre thinking ahead and whether or not u think that u will be able to sustain a life with two religions.

I personally don't see religion as a barrier between two people but i dont understand what some may worry about. one thing is for sure dear religion doesnt make or change a person.

and the way this girl is taking ahold of this problem is very wrong. you have to explain to her that hurting herself isnt gonna get either of u anywhere and that her leaving the university is not going to change what her mother thinks. She has to make the decision of either approaching her mother like an adult or her self acting like an adult and weighing the pros and cons of you guys being together. nothing is simple and an issue like this sure isnt but with two bright wise and open minded people i think ull be able to over come it no matter what the decision is lay out ur pros and cons.

i hope it helped a bit

good luck

-miss o.

[Novak]

I am 23 years old, mature enough to understand what life is all about. I saw such situations before but didn't think for an instance that this will happened with me. 5atife is too early to talk about, I just cant understand why I am rejected like this, I even asked her to ask her mother "What if don't believe in GOD?" She didn't respond. Her mother has a big influence on her, and she told me this before; her mother is just acting cold like khalas w point a la ligne!

[Miss O.]

Originally Posted by Novak

I am 23 years old, mature enough to understand what life is all about. I saw such situations before but didn't think for an instance that this will happened with me. 5atife is too early to talk about, I just cant understand why I am rejected like this, I even asked her to ask her mother "What if don't believe in GOD?" She didn't respond. Her mother has a big influence on her, and she told me this before; her mother is just acting cold like khalas w point a la ligne!

i dont know if saying u dont believe in god will please her since her religion means alot to her. and i think the mom keeps closing the subject so the girl feels like its hopeless. Could you guys start out as friends and slowly approach the mother and get closer to her. You dont have to just win the girls heart in this case. Especially since her mom has so much influence on her i think ur gonna have to work on winning that moms heart too if u know what i mean


-miss o.

[chaingang_100]

All the Christian girls have vanished from the face of earth??

Ensa, and go for another one, hole hurting herself osas w khabariyyet kellon 7araket, bokra btnsek abel ma enta tnseha.

Go find a nice Christian girl to avoid having such problems next time.

[abousoun]

okey here is a true story that happened to my friend (not kidding) ...
he is a ?????? and she is christian ... her father opposed the marriage, however they remained together ... he got pissed off a lot of time until he had a heart attack and died ... now they are married and expecting a child ...
Feel free to take the morale from this story :P

Thank You ...

[Sogelec]

Originally Posted by chaingang_100

All the Christian girls have vanished from the face of earth??

Ensa, and go for another one, hole hurting herself osas w khabariyyet kellon 7araket, bokra btnsek abel ma enta tnseha.

Go find a nice Christian girl to avoid having such problems next time.

Why Are You Insisting on CHRISTIAN GIRLS Chaingang?!
Hayda Lebanon, and Every family has a mentality
fe Christian Families that do Not Accept Muslims w vice versa w this is SOO NORMAL!
bokra nshallah when you love some1 (A GIRLS AKEED)...you will see that sometimes you ignore religion for the sake of Love
w msh love, friendship, business contacts...
for example, i have christian friends (Girls n boys) a2rab ele mn l muslims one...

[Sogelec]

Originally Posted by abousoun

okey here is a true story that happened to my friend (not kidding) ...
he is a ?????? and she is christian ... her father opposed the marriage, however they remained together ... he got pissed off a lot of time until he had a heart attack and died ... now they are married and expecting a child ...
Feel free to take the morale from this story :P

Thank You ...

DAWA5TNI YA ABOUSOUN
ARE THEY MARRIED IN HEAVEN W U KNEW ABT THEM??

[Adam]

Do you want to marry her or just have a relationship?
If it's just a relationship, maybe you can have it in secret, it's better than nothing.